I hate conflict. I hate confrontation. I’d rather wait and see if it goes away. And this goes with intimacy issues. I don’t feel I have a healthy mindset about sex and what it should be in a marriage. That it’s not about college hook-ups, one-night-stands and being taken advantage of or used. I loved the male friendships I had throughout high school and college but I was also “privy” to the conversations they had about women they were dating or had an after-hours experience with. Growing up, I had a mindset of men wanting one thing only- and not sticking around for what women truly need. Listen on Spotify!
What’s really fun is our bodies changing. Whether you just had a baby or if you’re like me, in perimenopause and have the Sahara Desert down there. It’s hard to be intimate and enjoy sex when it’s painful, awkward, and you feel you’re doing someone a favor.
Intimacy goes way beyond the bedroom. Intimacy with ALL of our relationships, and ourselves, takes us to the intimacy we have in our marriage or partnership. We need to connect more with what intimacy truly means first. And that starts with being intimate with ourselves- who we truly are and what drives us to live an incredible life. And when it comes to our confusing hormonal roller coaster we are on, don’t lose hope. Educate yourself, know your symptoms, find ways to get your hormones in harmony. And just talk. Communicate. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to create a sex life that breaks world records. I hope you find some relief with this episode and know you have me to connect with. I’d love to hear your story. You are never alone.
Mom Card Drawing of the Week: “Intimacy is a totally different dimension. It is allowing the other to come into you, to see you as you see yourself.” -Osho
Closing Inspiration: “Real intimacy is of the soul, and the soul is reserved. Intimacy is not something that just happens between two people, it is a way of being alive. At every moment, we are choosing either to reveal ourselves or to protect ourselves, to value ourselves or diminish ourselves, to tell the truth or to hide.” -Geneen Roth
